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Simplest Thing EVER. Except….. May 12, 2010

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You almost don’t want to search online for information about how to meditate.

The basics to meditating are very, very simple.  Too often, other people try and make it more complicated than they need to.

  • Sit in a quiet place, take a few deep breaths to relax, and start watching your breath … just watching, listening … you’re on your way. 
  • You’ll start thinking other thoughts.  That’s OK.  Don’t criticize yourself … but just stop, and return to watching and listening to and feeling your breath. 
  • Other thoughts will occur to you.  You may find yourself deep in mental conversations with others, or remembering things that happened, or you might come up with all sorts of fantasies of things that might occur …
  • Then, you remember you’re meditating.  Return to your breath. 
  • Do this for 10, 15 or 20 minutes a day.  Maybe even twice a day.

There are all sorts of variations on this.  There’s also lots of extra discipline you can add to this.  Don’t listen to someone who says you need this particular mantra (a word you repeat to yourself instead of watching your breath), or someone else who says you have to sit a certain way or have a certain knowledge base before you’re really meditating.  There are people who say you really need to be breathing in a particular way before you’re getting the most out of meditation. 

For most busy people, these are all barriers to meditating.  Meditation feels good, and helps get the brain going in the direction your soul and spirit want to go.  You CAN get more disciplined about it if that feels like the path you’re on.  However, if you’re like most people, you’ll never really start if you have a lot of “shoulds” in your head about it.

Meditation isn’t earth-shaking.  It won’t immediately change your world.  It’s not a drug.  It’s a practice to help remind you … to help your brain realize … that the stresses and pressures and issues and allures of everyday life are temporary.  It helps you put that stuff into perspective. 

And, it helps give your brain some discipline.  When you are meditating, and you get caught up in some train of thought that’s making you feel angry or frustrated or thrilled or excited, it’s valuable to know how to just quietly return to watching the rhythm of your breath.  You’ll be better at that in real life now … better at not getting caught up in the flow of emotions.  Especially other people’s emotions that you might want to stay clear of!

If you get interrupted while meditating, deal with what you need to deal with, and return to watching your breath.  You may even doze off when you meditate.  If you startle awake and realize you nodded off, can you guess what you do next?  That’s right, return to paying attention to your breath!

Now, how does this change your life?  Whether it’s inside your brain or outside, relating to others, there’s a constant soup of thoughts, emotions and information that you’re immersed in.

Most of it is not terribly important.  No matter what comes at you, no matter what anyone else says or does, no matter how your very smart brain chooses to trouble you, you can get centered.  You’ll learn this if you meditate regularly.

Finally, this is not some other religion that conflicts with your own.  You may even find that this brings you closer to a faith that you hold dear. 

If you try it and have any questions, feel free to leave me a comment here, or email me, instead!

 

What It’s Like To Get An Intuitive Reading April 8, 2010

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During hard times (economic or otherwise), more people look to intuitives, psychics, mediums and other folks like that for help and guidance with their lives.  I call them Alternative Spiritual Energy Providers.  Working with an ASEP is not like it looks in movies and TV!

  1. It’s a time when you get to explore questions you’ve had with someone who has a completely fresh perspective.
  2. This time is totally focused on you!  Can anyone really tell the future 100% of the time?  No way!  But don’t get a reading to find out what the future holds.  Instead, find out what is going on around you and what you have the potential to do.  It’s liberating to find out what possibilities the future holds!
  3. It’s not weird or creepy.  These are ordinary folks like you and me.  Some people doing this sort of work resisted it before committing to doing it.  It may seem odd to have someone do a reading with you the first time, but it shouldn’t be scary.  No intuitive person who cares about you or the job they do will predict something frightening you can’t do something about.
  4. Keep your judgment.  This is YOUR life you’re talking about.  You have to decide whether what you’re told fits with your life.  When someone is working with you, they may have trouble making sense of something they’re feeling from you.  That can make it hard for them to describe what they’re sensing, so keep your brain engaged, and do some intuiting of your own for the meaning that you need to pick up.
  5. What do you really want to know about?  You don’t need to give a lot of information, but it’ll help get your reading on the best foot if you can say that you’re most concerned about your health, or your family, or your career, or your chances for romance, or some other general area.  You’ll still have a good reading if you just ask to keep it general, but don’t miss your chance to focus on what’s important to you.
  6. You don’t have to have any particular spiritual or religious background to get a reading.  Being open-minded and “open-spirited” helps, though!

You can google your way to finding someone to work with, but pretty soon, we’ll have listings of folks at SoulBuffet.com.  People who do intuitive readings often don’t make a lot of money, but still need a way to market themselves.  If you’re an intuitive reader, our plan is to let you list yourself for free, and we’ll ask for your permission to let people book sessions with you via our site, and we’ll tack on a nominal surcharge to make this possible.  Then, we’ll market our site to the general public so you don’t have to do it yourself.

If you’re interested in knowing more about SoulBuffet.com, you can email me here.

 

Manifesting Your Vision April 7, 2010

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Whether or not you believe in the Law of Attraction, having a Vision Board is a cool way to help you focus your goals in life.

If you talk with people who have accomplished big goals, often they’ll say that they wrote down their vision or kept something in sight that reminded them of their commitment to themselves and their work.

So few of us ever get around to writing down our dreams.  But you can still have a Vision Board.

The end result is the same thing as making note of what you want your life to be.  You put your dreams and visions and goals in the form of pictures and words, and keep them someplace where you can look at them frequently.

You can cut out pictures and post them somewhere of what you want … or you can use your computer to build a vision board, and share it with others online.

Even if you look at a vision board that someone else put together, you can sense the energy and drive behind it.  It’s very motivating even to tap into someone else’s dreams and feel the energy!  However, there’s an art to doing them well.  Let me show you a couple that aren’t bad … but that might be more effective if they were more focused and less specific.

This one is from a woman, Jessi, with big dreams.  No problem with that!  She’s dreaming of a big recording career, lots of money, a great place to live, and more.  Jessi, many blessings on you for you to achieve your dreams!  I think, however, that you’re making it more difficult than it needs to be because it’s almost 1o minutes long.  Your vision board could move along faster.  If you still hit the key points but with perhaps fewer pictures or fewer details about each thing you want to manifest, your mind would find it easier to use this board more productively.

This guy from ManifestYourFortune.com has a vision board posted that is about eight minutes long, and I found it rather long and overly specific, too.  Now, it might not be too long for him; it might be the perfect length for him, and completely on-message for his success plans.  I think there’s a real balancing point between being too vague and too specific … not because the universe can’t handle a lot of details, but you have to use your human brain to help send the message of what you want to manifest.  The more you can train yourself to keep a few key, focused, specific points in your mind, the more you can work on getting those.

However, I do want to give Mr. ManifestYourFortune props for stating his goals in the present tense, so that he can mentally savor and enjoy them even before they come completely true in this particular universe we’re in.

There’s also an argument to be made that you want to focus on the process you will go through as much as the ultimate outcome.  Is it more valuable to say, “I am continually being prospered” as opposed to “I am financially free at age 40?”  The latter is a specific, measurable goal, but it doesn’t mean you won’t be over your head in debt at age 42!  Do some real thinking about what is really important to you, and the process by which you get there.

For instance, here’s one I like a lot from a site where I’ve learned a lot about Ho’oponopono.  You’ll notice some key things about this particular vision board that really work.  It’s a great balance between too general and too specific.  It really moves, too, so that the mind can get picked up and go for a ride on the energy that this board is infused with.  It’s also much more about the process of getting what we want, and giving the mind enough flexibility for the future.  It might be that if we hit our most important goals, our list of secondary stuff we want to manifest will change.

Here’s another good vision board from salondemaria at youtube.com.  I’m partial to this because it’s spiritual in a very practical way.  Personally … and this may be my prejudice … I think it’s much easier to manifest things we want if we can see them being of benefit to the whole universe, as well!  Let’s face it … we get what we want from the universe when we can put it in terms of the universe’s self-interest.  In other words … when we see our interest as inseparable from everyone else’s.

Want to get started making your own vision board?  Here’s a series from eHow.com on how to put together a good old fashioned, non-computerized one.  There’s plenty of websites and software available online to help you assemble a vision board on your computer, and I’ll let you search through all those options.  If you’re at all proficient with PowerPoint, I think you could put together a mega-spiffy vision board using that program.

I’ll leave you with this good, solid overview of different vision board types, and also this idea … remember to bless your vision board, whether you make it yourself, or view someone else’s.

Blessings on ya and all your goals!

 

Roamin’ Morality April 5, 2010

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I’m not a Catholic.  But I’m MAD.

God bless the religious workers all over the world who spend their time working to ease the lives of other people every day.    Those people, however, are no more infallible or closer to God than you or I.

Getting a church paycheck doesn’t make you holier than anyone else.  And too often, when someone puts on a church robe, it’s a way for them … and us … to pretend that their lives aren’t any more or less meaningful or wretched than the rest of us.

In fact, I have more respect for someone who just decides to do their ordinary workday job from an ethical, helpful mindset than I do for “religious leaders” who work to protect the church institution or shine the glory on themselves.

Look at any faith here on the planet.  You won’t find any scripture where it says that buildings or vestments or church hierarchy have anything to do with getting closer to God.  On the other hand, consider Jesus’s attitude towards the Pharisees … and consider the lilies of the field …..

So when we ordinary folks feel anger, shock and disbelief over how the Catholic church continues to cover up and protect pederast priests rather than getting to the root of the problem, it’s a sign that we need to start taking responsibility for our own spirituality.

If anything, most religious institutions make it MORE difficult to understand how to have a meaningful relationship with God.  My life is based in a Christian tradition, so that’s the one I know the best.  In Mark 12:28-31, Jesus is asked what is the most important commandment.  Now, do you think maybe this is a signal that something important is coming?  Jesus basically says to love God with everything you’ve got.  That doesn’t mean serve God, it doesn’t mean fear God, it doesn’t mean humble yourself before God, it doesn’t mean pretend to be nicer around God than you really are.

It means love.  Adore, cherish, idolize, lose your heart for.  That’s the most important thing.  And, oh, by the way, there’s a second.  Love those other human beings around you as much as you love yourself.

Jesus goes on to say there’s no greater commandment than these.

We all have crazy busy lives these days.  And we look for shortcuts to a good relationship with God.  On top of that, we tend to go with what we know.

But if the above two commandments are the two most important ones there are, how often do Christian churches return to those two basic messages?  Love God.  Love each other.  Simple focus … and something you can focus a lifetime on.  All the other rules and trappings are a distraction.

No wonder we’re angry.  The religious leaders we trusted are too often more confused by their mission, more confused by God’s messages that He’s still sending, and more confused by the skills it takes to run large organizations than the rest of us are.

Now we’re as angry at our religious leaders as we are at our government leaders.  You think it’s time to start taking more responsibility for our own unique lives than ever before?

 

He Is Risen, & So Are We April 4, 2010

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So this is Easter, and what have you done?  Another year over and a new one just begun.

It’s Easter morning about 9am, and so far, I’m the only one up in the house.  My wife will soon drag herself out of bed into the shower to get ready for us to go to church, and I’ll make her breakfast.  Our teenage son is probably staying home to sleep in, but he may change his mind at the last minute and join us.

So many thoughts about Easter come to mind.  For traditional Christians, this is the most important holiday of the year, because it shows the redemptive power of God in Christ.  Jesus died for all mankind to ensure them a place in heaven, cleaning the ol’ sin slate in our favor.

As powerful as the idea of a place in heaven is, there’s a lot of power in putting Easter in the here-and-now.  One thing that keeps calling me back about Christianity is the idea that you are not limited by your past.  You can be forgiven.  You can begin again.  Compared to much of human history, this is a truly radical idea, and it’s not one that’s even embraced by all Christians, especially the more punitive ones.

Yeah, sure, you’re holding a seat for me in heaven.  Like the Kenny Chesney song says, “Everybody wants to go to heaven; nobody wants to go now.”  The challenges we face are in the here and now, and Easter is the bumper sticker on the car-in-front-of-us-of-Life saying, “YES” … there is hope.  If you fear what the future holds, you can always have a fresh start.  If you regret your part in the past, you can always have a fresh start.

Personally, I think it’s just God’s way of being practical.  There’s too much that we have to do here in this particular physical plane that’s part of God’s plan that we won’t really understand until we make the big ol’ transition at the end of this life and get to the next one.

Whatever your particular religious or spiritual practice is great.  But most of us don’t get to be monks and work on that practice 24/7.  Our mission is to live out those principles in our work and family life.  It’s in living our mundane, ordinary lives that we get to express our highest principles.  In other words … going to that job you hate is an expression of what you want your gift to your loved ones and mankind and the universe and God to be.  <Gulp!>

More about THAT soon.  Happy Easter!

 

Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love April 2, 2010

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Ho’oponopono may be daunting to say or spell (HOE-o’-POE-noe-POE-noe), but it’s a surprisingly easy and reliable spiritual practice that comes out of Hawaii.

It’s an empowering four-step process for taking responsibility for our own lives and cleaning them up.  It’s as easy as saying these four short phrases.  Think about something you’re wrestling with, and say to yourself:

  1. I’m sorry.
  2. Please forgive me.
  3. Thank you.
  4. I love you.

I’m Sorry: Please don’t let the word “repentance” put you off.  That’s the first step.  You see, you’re apologizing … to yourself, and to whatever higher power you believe in out there … for the thoughts you think that get in the way of your happiness, growth and ultimate life’s purpose.  Even if it seems like it’s something outside of you that’s bothering you, part of it is in your mind … and what you tell yourself about it!  I find it works best if you can hold on to the feeling that goes along with

Please Forgive Me: Maybe you feel like you don’t have anyone to apologize to.  Maybe you’re totally an innocent victim!  Just do it.  If something’s a problem for you, when you take some responsibility for it, you start to clear it for yourself.  And you’re apologizing to yourself, and to whatever God or force of nature you think is out there.

Thank You: Undoubtedly one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself, spiritually.  To God, to the universe, to yourself … just saying “thank you” can help add clarity to a confused situation, and assumes that all is well even if it doesn’t feel that way.  Say it here, too.

I Love You: You’ve taken responsibility for cleaning up your share of what’s troubling you and you’ve asked for forgiveness.  You’ve expressed gratitude.  Love is the final key.  “I love you.”  Again, it doesn’t really matter what or who you’re saying it to; it doesn’t even really matter if you feel that love through and through.  Saying it creates the intention that you want to increase the love in your life.

A couple of hints to make it easier and more effective:  first, hold some of the feeling in your body when you’re working on cleaning something.  In other words, if you’d like to clean up how you get treated by someone, feel how you feel when that happens.  Hold that feeling in your body as you start saying “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”  You may find that, if you are focused and persistent, when you’re done, it’s harder to get in touch with that same feeling!

Also, once will probably not be enough.  Saying these four phrases just once through is fine, but you’ll find ho’oponopono has more personal power for you if you do it over and over again.

You don’t necessarily have to stop what you’re doing to do this.  Think about the times of day that your brain tends to remind you of the stuff you don’t like thinking about.  That tends to be when you’re not actually focusing on something else, right?!  You know the times … driving the car, standing in the shower, doing mindless tasks, and so forth.  Give your brain something POSITIVE to focus on, and do some ho’oponopono.  “I’m sorry; please forgive me; thank you; I love you.”  You won’t remember every time, especially at first.  It’s like working a muscle; it feels awkward at first, and then it becomes more natural and flowing pretty soon afterwards.

These four steps even work if you do them out of order!

If you’d like to see a bit more formal, structured way of doing ho’oponopono, there are videos online.  But don’t over-think this; part of its success is in how easy it is to do it often.

If you’d like to see more about ho’oponopono, look here, here, here and here.  Also, many of us first learned about ho’oponopono from the book by Dr. Joe Vitale.

 

Do You Read Me? March 31, 2010

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So I’ve been working on the new site, and also on keeping myself open to what I’m hearing from outside of myself. 

I’ve loved working in radio, but it’s time to move on … in part because, I believe, there’s a lot about radio that distracts us from ourselves.  We turn it on for a momentary break from the boredom, or the pain, or the frustration, or the overwhelming-ness of everyday life.

For years, I’ve taken pride in being able to drug you like that.  It’s resulted in great ratings for my employers, allowing our sales people to sell commercials at solid rates.  And listeners would tell me they really enjoyed what we were doing on the air.  That meant a lot.

But I’m just in a different place now.  I admire those who do a good job on the air or behind the scenes in radio.  However, my life has become much more about seeing … listening … and feeling inside me and around me to pick up on what’s REALLY going on … not just covering it up with some pleasantly escapist audio.

My radio friends are gonna hate that I say that.  And, again, I don’t mean to trash them or burn any bridges.  We just get to different points in life where we need to move on.  Over all my adult years, there’ve been times when I distracted myself with drugs … with food … with wine … with overworking … with different forms of drama … with depression and anxiety … and even with religious and spiritual practices. 

Yeah, I didn’t like it when going to church didn’t cause me to be happy.  I dabbled in eastern thought with the idea that I could be interesting and Buddhist enough to have a fun, never-painful life. 

Didn’t work.

So I’ve come to the conclusion that what other people do or say … or who other people are … will ultimately have no long-term impact on ourselves, unless we let them. 

That’s one big reason why I want to start soulbuffet.com.  Ultimately, we come into this world alone, and we go out alone.  I believe we all have a big ol’ spiritual connection to each other … like many religions teach (but not in so many words), we’re immortal spirits hanging around in temporary earth suits … but it’s up to each of us to figure out what that connection is for us. 

We need to take responsibility for our own spirituality. 

That sounds much more like boot camp than it really is.  Yeah, it’s tough to squarely look in the eyes what troubles us or upsets us.  Or scares us.  Or marginalizes us.  But ultimately … it’s liberating.  And so many of us feel trapped.

You might feel trapped.  I’m sorry if you do.  People feel trapped in different ways. 

I’m hoping to encourage all of us to get in touch with our ability to intuit our lives and our purpose by creating a space for those who are already providing that service for folks.  I’m not a psychic, I don’t do astrology charts, and I forget what most tarot cards mean.  But I think there are a lot of ways to “read” others and ourselves … to tap into the energy of our spirit which doesn’t get measured by the five senses we all agree on.

More on that to come.  In the meantime, big ol’ fat blessings on you as we move through what’s a holy week for so many of us.